Anita Blake bunny

So, I've been visited by a very demanding Anita Blake plot bunny. It's actually two stories, one crosses with Buffy and a sequel that crosses with Xena. But before I begin, I need all the information I can on Anita's family and hometown years. I've surfed the net, but most sites focus on the monsters or have mistakes that makes me weary to trust anything on them.

I have so many questions that I need answering before I begin to outline the stories properly. Is Josh Anita's step or half brother? The same for Judith's 'perfect daughter'(Can't remember her name atm), is she a step or a half? Where did Anita grow up? Any name mentioned for her father? And so on and so on... Does anyone have a clue? Erin?

I've begun to reread the books, just looking for mentions of Anita's upbringing, and after going through half of Guilty Pleasure I actually thought to my self, at least the later books are so filled with sex scenes, I can just skip over several pages at once. I think that was among the most positive I've ever thought about Incubus Dreams.

Maybe I should't care about canon so much. LKH doesn't seem to.